The BBW Slay Dating Chronicles

The BBW Date Night Slayage

The Initial Convo

  1. He looked fly as hell in his pic and had 🎶body ody ody🎶. I have an INSANE passion for fashion and a man with a sense of style is always a plus for me.
  2. I’m extremely booked and busy a lot **flipshair**, so I often mess up and miss matches on Bumble because women have to engage first. He extended the match which immediately showed intention and sincere interest (cuz you gotta pay for that!).
  3. He didn’t use the language for the basic. His first two sentences were, “There is a God. I hope this goes well.”
  4. He made me laugh. So, I’m a quintessential Aries with all the hot fire like Dylan, Dylan, Dylan (if you don’t get that joke, YOU’RE WHACK🤣). So he goes on to ask me how do I pronounce my name and I spell it phonetically. He then says, you forgot the hyphen. My hot-head ass immediately got annoyed like wtf, bruh…I know how to spell my damn name. Then he said, “It went over your head but [you’ll] get it soon enough.” I’m like bish whet? He then got me together and said I left out the hyphen with his last name. SWOON, RIGHT! Hell, nah…I’m a G. I was like that’s cute (secretly blushing), but how my trauma with men and dating are set-up, I immediately thought this was just another dude tryna flex with a quick wit and a lil game. I was pleasantly surprised.

A Miracle Occurred: We Talked on the Phone

He Got GOALS, Goals

  1. My accomplishments at this point in my life have been happenstance and unpredictable. I have not taken the time to reveal what I need or want — just about what needs to get done with OTHER folks.
  2. I don’t like for people to tell me what to do, even its right, because I have a big ego and I avoid failure. I only focus on things I am already good at. Preaches to self: “Sis, that ain’t it".
  3. I have received so much praise my entire life, I think you’re crazy as hell if you have something else different to say. Y’all, dude told me, “I think you are the woman I’ve prayed for and I want US to be the best we can be so we can be in each other’s lives for a long time.” **inserts thug cry**. Again, the theme with consistency AND intentionality is a breath of fresh air.

The Date

Setting the Foundation of Intention

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